Just How Thoughtful Can a Korean Husband Be? (Episode 1)



Finally!!! After bugging my naturally shy husband a dozen times to do this project with me, he gave in.


Finally!!! After bugging my naturally shy husband a dozen times to do this project with me, he gave in. ^^

Every week, hubby and I are going to post short videos about our everyday silliness and experiences as an intercultural couple. We’d like this to be entertaining not only for us but also for our followers, so we won’t be delving into the more serious aspects of intercultural marriage here. We’ll play around a bit, but of course, everything you’ll see in the videos are “based on actual events”. We are not claiming that they happen to all intercultural couples in Korea, but they may be similar to what some of them experience.


We hope you enjoy our first video. ^^



In most K-dramas, men are often depicted as controlling, stubborn, rude and tough, but once they fall in love, they act the exact opposite. They become gentler, more affectionate and more romantic to the woman they adore. This, however, is in dramas where everything can happen. In real life, Korean men are just like any other men who try their best to please women’s high standard of what an ideal boyfriend or husband should be.


One of the questions I am often asked about my Korean husband is whether he is romantic or not. The truth is, he is far from being romantic… but he can be thoughful. Sometimes he comes home bringing me my favorite treats or little things he gets from 뽑기 or crane machines. He never forgets my birthday, our wedding anniversaries (We had three wedding ceremonies.) and other special days. He is not the type of man who gives his woman a bouquet or surprises her with a lavish dinner, but he has his own ways of making my heart flutter… even when he is actually being annoying.


I remember reading a post in one Facebook group where a woman was asking for advise because her husband forgot her birthday, and she felt disappointed when he left for work without even greeting her. Most of the pieces of advise she got from other women in the group was not to expect too much from her Korean husband because Korean men are not that romantic. Some women scolded her for being too sensitive and childish. She then posted an update, and said that when her husband came home from work, he surprised her with a cake and a present.


Korean husbands may appear to be cold and domineering at times, because to most of them, hard work and responsibility matter more. A Korean husband may be in haste to leave the house without kissing his wife goodbye, but that doesn’t mean that he is cold. Perhaps he just doesn’t want to be late for work. (Read more about why Koreans are always in a hurry here.) A Korean will not leave work early or call in sick just so he can take his wife on a special date for their anniversary.


Some women, though, are more fortunate to have husbands who know how to sweep their wives off their feet. I have seen a couple of photos of fancy anniversary gifts and romantic dinners on Facebook, and posts about lovey-dovey moments with Korean husbands… but hey, come to think of this… if your husband isn’t Mr. Romantico, will that make him less of a man?

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